5 Reasons to Never Reveal a Crush

Everyone has had a crush. You know someone you liked from a far. You don't really know them, but something about them attracted you. Something made you want to get to know them. It could be as simple as something they said, you resonated with. Usually it’s that girl or guy you see all the time but never quite caught their name. If you’re shy like me, you wouldn't use it if you found out anyway. Usually I just admire from distance. Their persona is so right you would talk to them in a suit or a ball cap. A real cool person, you always see them laughing, joking, or even conversing intellectually.

A crush has a certain kind of mystery. There is more than what meets the eye. You might exchange a few casual “Hi’s” or “Hello’s”, possibly even a few compliments. After all you barely know this person. Yet you want to. Then again maybe you should keep your distance. I know many of you are thinking “Why not just say something?” Well a crush is a very delicate matter. There are so many factors that contribute to making the decision of ousting yourself.

ONE

Your crush may not even be in to you. All that casual conversation and flirting you thought you were doing, they were just being polite. They don’t like you.

TWO

The crush AKA Mr. or Mrs. Right is so great, they’re already in a relationship. Yes, you weren't the only person that recognized their greatness. Which would put us right back at number 1. They’re not into you.

THREE

A crush is a great fantasy, someone you don’t know, but think you like, because you perceive them to be a certain way. The reality may never even live up to the fantasy. Why set yourself up for disappointment? Plus this crush allows you to still be disillusioned and believe that there are still great quality people out there. (They’re out there, but they are scarce)

FOUR

Once you acknowledge the “Crush” they are no longer just a Crush. You just put yourself out there to someone you hardly know and who hardly knows you. Now of course this could be an awkward situation because we aren’t the most trusting people. You could totally lose your crush all together. Then who would you casually flirt without being pressured?

FIVE

Why is it that I have to climb 1000 mountains to get to you and all you have to do is smile to get to me? Do you really think you are the only person that likes this charming and charismatic person? You could be one of many subscribers. This means you are like everyone else. If they have a slew of crushes you're lost in the mix. You were doing better, not saying anything at all.

I usually preach about taking risk, but you need to calibrate if this person is worth the risk. Be aware when professing or acknowledging your feelings towards someone you don’t know, they may not know you well enough to appreciate who you are or the opportunity you are placing in their lap. I say opportunity because you should always know your value and that your worth it. I recommend trying to get to know the person before professing the crush, even if there is an obvious attraction. If you develop a friendship first, at the very minimal they will let you down easy because they respect you and your feelings.